Tuesday, June 9, 2009

I'm grateful for...

I'm grateful for friends who ask thought provoking questions about things that I need to think about. Today this happened over lunch. Thanks, friend!

I was going to leave it there, but real quick, isn't it great how other people can help us see things in our lives that we don't observe? I think obvious one reason they can do this is because they are farther away from the situation and aren't as emotionally invested. Can you think of any other reasons they can do this? (Other comments on this topic as also welcome, of course).
Posted by Matt Chandler at 10:34 PM
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4 comments:

  1. I think you're right...it's like watching a movie and thinking it's so obvious what they should do yet in our own lives we can't see that clearly. I also think that everyone has different experiences that cause them to see things differently than you or I see them. They've had experiences that lead them to think one way or another...
    I don't really know how to explain what I mean, but I think that should suffice.
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  2. Yeah, I can see that. That really makes sense, and I like your movie example.
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  3. I'm not quite sure how this relates directly, but I thought I'd share: I had a drama teacher in high school that talked about how sometimes an experience in life is too new or too close to home for you to be able to create something (a song, a scene, a poem) from it. (The class was a musical theatre class). How sometimes it's too much yours for you to be able to share it, in any form, with the world. I think part of that is that you aren't able to see it entirely, because the way you feel is tangled around it are so tight. We only see the dominant emotion, and it's in hindsight that we see the rest and are able to grow from it.

    On the other hand, when we distance ourselves from it, or turn the character from "I" to "she," it is much easier to think rationally. Maybe that's why others can see our lives sometimes better than we can?
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  4. You know, if I had listened to outsider point-of-views earlier on in my life, I wouldn't have wasted over three years in a going-nowhere relationship.

    I really appreciate friends who are brave enough to bring up a difficult topic because they care. That doesn't meant that we listen/accept them, but at least for me, I'm always appreciative that they're there.
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